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No whining!

People on diets have a remarkable tendency to whine a lot.  Obviously, they don't think they are whining at all, they are merely letting everyone know how much effort they are putting in, how difficult it all is and how much suffering they are putting themselves through.  

Yes, that is called whining.

Try a whining diet too - quit it!

Think about it like this.  How differently would you have to behave if you could not tell anyone about your diet, your weight loss ideals, your sufferance or anything. i.e. You cannot mention a single thing about it?

Would change things a bit, right?

Now think about this. How much of your diet is being done to win approval from other people?  How much of your daily conversation and commentary on your diet designed with the unconscious aim of getting approval from other people?

So, who are you doing this for?  Why are you doing this?  To lose weight, or to get other people to keep saying nice and reassuring things to you?

So much of the stuff around weight loss involves getting other people to change their behaviour - to serve smaller portions, to stop them buying you cakes and so on.  Going around a friends house for dinner can be interesting when you are on a diet.  How much conversation happens before or around the dinner about what you can and cannot eat?

How often do people ask you if you can eat this or that, or they give you that look that suggests that maybe you shouldn't be eating it because you are on a diet?

They do this because you have gone on and on about it.  Really, you probably didn't notice, but you did.

Now, stop it!